Fun Friday – Juggling

Ever feel like you’re juggling too many balls at once in your life?

 

As you go on into the weekend, if you’re feeling like you have too many balls in the air and feel stressed, remember this guy.

 

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Getting to know you

Dear Followers,

You obviously know a bit about me now and what I’m about (positivity, motivation, making people happy). I would love if I could get to know more about YOU.

So, if you’re happy to do so, please answer the following questions in the comments box. It’s just a bit of fun and a way for me to get to know you.

1) When was the last time you felt over the moon, and why?

2) What never fails to make you laugh?

3) Who is your hero and why?

4) Have you discovered your life’s purpose? If so, what is it?

5) What do you find inspires or motivates you the most?

6) What makes you happy?

7) What are your favourite qualities in a person?

8) Do you get cranky when you’re hungry?

9) What is your favourite T.V show, book or film?

10) What’s your favourite thing about the internet?

I look forward to all your responses, please take the time to answer. I genuinely want to get to know my followers so I can write better for you and prepare a decent giveaway for when I hit my next ‘follower’ target.

Till next time

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Get out of your own way!

Hi Guys,

Before I say what I’m about to say, know this; you need to read the whole post or you will get completely the wrong idea about me! Got it? Okay.

So, there is someone I know and to be honest I don’t like her much. She’s pretty stupid, she never gets anything right. She gets lost despite the help of a map and written directions. She is beyond ugly and overweight. She can’t cook. She worries too much and fails at pretty much everything. Her marriage is a fluke, if someone REALLY knew her she would be alone forever.

Ok, hands up if you thought I was really nasty talking about someone like that? You might think it’s nasty but it’s okay if all those things are true, isn’t it? I can say it if it’s true, or even partially true. Am I right? No?

So riddle me this…if we can’t talk about someone else like that, why do we reason that we can talk about ourselves like this? Every time you bash yourself you are lowering your chances of success. If you tell yourself something often enough you will believe it.

For all the chick flick lovers out there, do you remember the scene in ‘Pretty Woman’ when Julia Roberts says to Richard Gere that the bad stuff is always easier to believe? Well, how about this then, don’t tell yourself the bad stuff! What will be there to believe if you remove the bad stuff? The positive stuff!

Remember I did a post a while back about being your own bestie? BYOB! If your best friend was doubting himself, you would tell him all the ways he rocked, right? You wouldn’t agree and then go back to the beginning of time, listing his mistakes, dwelling on them, telling him he was a complete loser and would never improve.

Yet we quite happily do this to ourselves. Stop telling yourself the bad stuff. That’s done with, it’s over, you’ve learned from it. Take notice of all the good things you do. Call yourself out when you find yourself telling yourself an outright lie.

Example: I’m always making mistakes.

Really? Always? Let’s take a look at that. Okay, so you made a mistake on a couple of things. But I’m pretty sure you managed to brush your teeth with a toothbrush today instead of the loo brush. I’m fairly confident you’re sitting reading this with your t-shirt or top on the right way round.

One thing I say to myself when I’m lost and frustrated is ‘I’m always getting lost.’ I find when I’m going anywhere new you could give me a 3D pop map and I would still get lost. I’m famous for it.

However, I’m not ALWAYS getting lost. I’m not found wondering round the streets with a puzzled expression at 10:30 am because I couldn’t find my way to my office. There are even some new places I go and I don’t get lost. So it’s not even that I ALWAYS get lost when I’m going somewhere new. So maybe a kinder and more realistic thing I could say to myself is ‘Sometimes, when I’m going somewhere new, I temporarily cannot find my location.’ Or even better ‘When I go to a new place, I can always find where I’m going eventually, just not necessarily straight away.

So, get out of your own way to success. Tell yourself kind and realistic things about yourself. Be as supportive as you would be to your own best friend. You will feel more positive and find yourself in an upward spiral towards success.

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Reclaim your thirst for life!

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Good morning!

Well, it’s hump day. For those of you with your minds in the gutter, that means we are halfway through the working week. 

How do you feel? I mean, really…deep down. Bored? Fed up? In my mind there are 2 types of boredom. There is ‘double maths lesson’ bored which passes the minute you are released to go to lunch and be with your friends. This isn’t too worrying, everybody has it.

Then you have the deep down ‘my soul has stagnated’ boredom. This is like dry rot and must be got rid of! I remember a few years ago I was stood in line at the shops and I suddenly realised I was far beyond double maths bored. It was a Sunday, the same inane headlines covered the magazines I was glancing at. I was buying exactly the same cereal and other bits of food that I had been buying the week before. I knew I would probably go home and do exactly what I did every weekend in an attempt to escape the reality of working 5 days a week in a job I hated.

I got extremely frustrated. I remember saying to a relative of mine how boring life was and they said that it was just how life was and to learn to accept it. They said everyone has to work, shop, cook and clean. Feeling desperate, I then raised my voice and said ‘Well if that’s what life is then I don’t want it!’

However, from that point on I was on a mission. I realised I’d not got any thirst for living. Everything exciting had previously seemed impossible; options and hobbies were for other people. The best way I can describe the change in me was forcing my mind open to accept other possibilities.

Once you realise that you can do all the exciting things that other people do, this incredible thirst will wash over you. You will feel like a kid in a sweet shop and want everything NOW!

I’m not saying you will never feel bored again, but once you realise you can take charge and make life what you want it to be, your thirst for life will come rushing back. It’s like going from black and white to colour, mute to surround sound.

So maybe plan something new for this weekend or buy the weirdest looking food at the supermarket and try it with friends. Talking of which, what is up with dragon fruit!?! 

Till next time

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Learning – the fun kind

Hands up, class, if school wasn’t really your cup of tea?

I have to say, though I did well at school, that it was more through pride in my work than being interested in what I was learning. I would sit fuming in a maths class, complaining to my class mates ‘When am I ever going to use this? Yet things I would really appreciate being taught weren’t even mentioned. I love this picture below.

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But thankfully as an adult I can pick and choose what I learn. I think of lot of people get so put off by the idea of ‘learning’ as they associate it with boring classes at school.

Learning does for your life what self-raising flour does for cakes; it enhances and lifts it. You will stand out from the crowd if you keep learning. You might make a new friend at night classes, you might be promoted because you have that extra qualification and it will definitely make you more interesting at parties!

First of all, get rid of the idea that learning takes place only within the walls of a classroom. Sitting with my legs dangling off the side of a plane, I learned just how cold it is at 14,000 feet! As I tilted my head back, crossed my arms over my chest and pushed myself out of the plane, I learned what it feels like to freefall for a minute (scary but freeing!)

I learned just how fast you have to run off a mountain to catch the wind when you want to go hangliding.

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I learned how heavy chain mail is!

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I want to learn so much I’m concerned I’ll never fit it into my lifetime. On my book case I have a whole shelf dedicated to language books and CD’s. I have French, Spanish, Mandarin, Sign Language, German and Japanese. I want to be fairly fluent in them all.

Behind my book case sits a keyboard I can only half play. I want to learn to play that, I also want to learn to play the saxophone.

Learn the guitar so you can serenade that special someone. Learn how to create websites so you can earn squillions of pounds. Learn how to make cool clothes so you won’t have to dress your baby in the god awful knitted baby grows you just know your mother-in-law will try and inflict on your newborn.

Don’t let formal education put you off learning. Learn something, anything. Let it enrich your life and make you a rounded and interesting person (not that you aren’t tremendously fascinating right now). Most of all, have fun with it. You won’t learn if you’re not having fun.

Till next time

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P.S For this post, I learned how to put more than one picture in at a time. Right on! 

My Bucket List

Okay gang,

I’ve been encouraged by Project Light to Life to finally get down, in writing, my Bucket List. I’ve had one in my head for a few years and have managed to do some of them already (which is why there are some items crossed off).Image

Here, in it’s entirety, is my Official Bucket List.

  1. Meet Ellen and go to her show
  2. Ride an elephant
  3. Learn to skate really well and dance in the skates
  4. Write and publish a book
  5. Grant someone their dying wish
  6. Get a tattoo
  7. Open an orphanage in Africa.
  8. Buy a house I love
  9. Meet Pink (properly this time)
  10.  Have a dog
  11.  Visit the Taj Mahal
  12.  Spend a night in the Ice Hotel in Sweden
  13.  Visit the Pyramids
  14.  Walk along part of the Great Wall of China
  15.  Visit Stonehenge
  16.  Go skiing
  17.  See the Northern lights
  18.  Ride a snowmobile
  19.  Watch a film at a drive in cinema
  20.  Ride in a gondola in Venice
  21.  Take a completely spontaneous holiday
  22.  Go skinny dipping
  23.  Go up in a hot air balloon
  24.  Go on a long road-trip across America
  25.  Learn at least 1 verbal language fluently
  26.  Throw a message in a bottle into the sea
  27.  Learn to play the saxophone
  28.  Become an epic motivational speaker
  29.  Be an extra in a tv show or film
  30.  Go parasailing
  31.  Go on all the biggest roller-coasters in the world
  32.  Take my wife to all the places I’ve been to that I know she’d like.
  33.  Go on a cruise
  34.  Build my own house
  35.  Go on a murder mystery weekend
  36.  Stand on an international date line
  37.  Go to Mardi Gras in New Orleans
  38.  Visit Canada
  39.  Watch a Broadway show
  40.  Go to a baseball game in America
  41.  Travel around Europe
  42.  Surprise my wife with a week away somewhere abroad
  43.  Learn sign language
  44.  Go to a great fancy dress party
  45.  Go on a multiple day train journey that has sleeping compartments and a dining car!
  46.  Hire a private jet
  47.  Go on a helicopter ride
  48.  Visit the Leaning Tower of Pisa
  49.  Hire a homeless person
  50.  Put up a homeless person till they find a job
  51.  Get in great shape and stay that way
  52.  Give blood 100 times
  53.  Go to Niagra Falls
  54.  Watch an ice hockey game in Canada
  55.  Throw my plate on the floor in Athens
  56.  Spend some time in Alaska
  57.  Eat genuine fajitas in Mexico City
  58.  Meet chimpanzees in the wild
  59.  Bring in the new year at Times Square
  60.  Experience weightlessness
  61.  Go to Nashville and hear some live country music
  62.  Pass my driving test
  63.  See the running of the bulls in Pamplona
  64.  Sleep under the stars
  65.  Pay for my wife to swim with dolphins
  66.  Become a millionaire by 30
  67.  Start my own business
  68.  Sky dive
  69.  Bungee Jump
  70.  Milk a cow
  71.  Ride a mechanical bull
  72.  Go to New York
  73.  See the Grand Canyon
  74.  Go to Vegas
  75.  Ride a jet ski
  76.  Ride a motorbike
  77.  Ride a camel
  78.  Go on a zipline
  79.  Go quad biking
  80.  Go on safari
  81.  Experience just one great love
  82.  Make a difference to millions of people’s lives
  83.  Go snorkeling in the Great Barrier Reef
  84.  Quit my job and go travelling for months.
  85.  Help my family achieve their dreams
  86.  See the Sydney Opera House
  87.  Give sick children the best day of their life
  88.  Celebrate every New Year the world has in one day.
  89.  Pay off my student loan
  90.  Learn self-defence
  91.  Grow a mohawk
  92.  Become the kind of person someone would miss when I’m gone
  93.  Buy a Mr Whippy machine and make my own ice cream
  94.  Get rid of my inner demons
  95.  Stay in the most quirky hotels all around the world
  96.  Find inner peace
  97.  Be happy with my achievements at the end of my life
  98.  Leave behind a legacy
  99.  Donate my organs
  100.  Plan a really fun funeral

Are You an Independent Thinker?

‘A lot of people never use their initiative because no-one told them to’ – Banksy

If this sounds like you, then listen up. I’m telling you to start using your initiative. Start using your mind, question everything and believe nothing until you have researched it to your satisfaction.

For some reason, thinking differently and sticking out raises eyebrows. It’s considered attention seeking or arrogant. Some people may be worried that as a result they won’t be liked. Therefore they do everything they can to fit in with the ‘in’ crowd. They tune in to the leader of the group and mindlessly go along with whatever they say. 

Whether it’s your parents, your friends, your colleagues or your government, someone is always going to try and get you to conform to their way of thinking. It makes them feel safe that everyone is like them and doesn’t have any outlandish, crazy ideas that rock the boat.

Well, these are the lyrics to one of my favourite songs which says it all. It’s from a musical and if musicals are your thing then here is a link to it.

Everybody says don’t,
Everybody says don’t,
Everybody says don’t-
It isn’t right,
Don’t-it isn’t nice!
Everybody says don’t,
Everybody says don’t,
Everybody says don’t walk on the grass,
Don’t disturb the peace,
Don’t skate on the ice.
Well, I say do

I say, walk on the grass, it was meant to feel!
I say sail!
Tilt at the windmill,
And if you fail, you fail.
Everybody says don’t,
Everybody says don’t,
Everybody says don’t get out of line.
When they say that, then
Lady that’s a sign:
Nine times out of ten,
Lady, you are doing just fine!

Make just a ripple.
Come on be brave.
This time a ripple,
Next time a wave
Sometimes you have to start small,
Climbing the tiniest wall,
Maybe you’re going to fall-
But it is better than not starting at all!
Everybody says no,
Everybody says stop.
Everybody says mustn’t rock the boat,
Mustn’t touch a thing!
Everybody says don’t,
Everybody says wait,
Everybody says can’t fight city hall,
Can’t upset the cart,
Can’t laugh at the king!
Well, I say try!
Laugh at the kings or they’ll make you cry.
Lose your poise
Fall if you have to,
But lady, make a noise!
Everybody says don’t,
Everybody says can’t,
Everybody says wait around for miracles,
That’s the way the world is made!
I insist on miracles, if you do them,
Miracles – nothing to them!
I say don’t,
Don’t be afraid!

I hope you break free from anyone trying to hold you back. As that famous quote goes ‘There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.’

Just imagine if people like Nelson Mandela and Martin Luther King JR had accepted what they were told. Would you be friends with the people you’re friends with now? What if Emeline Pankhurst or Millicent Fawcett hadn’t challenged the status quo? Women would still be their husband’s properties or unable to vote!

Go out there and show everyone who you are and what you’re capable of!

Till next time,

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